Your situation sounds so much like mine, though I didn't have an accident to blame for additional pain, just years and years of "dealing with it".
I hope your surgical consult goes well and they give you some good options for moving forward so you can get back on your feet and on with your life. We're entirely too young to be unable to live our lives to the fullest. Though, I'm sure if we had to we'd find ways to continue living as happily as possible, somehow.
I look forward to hearing how things went!