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Old 12-24-2008, 03:56 AM
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Unhappy Had a hard few days...

Hey everyone,

Let me start out by saying this has nothing whatsoever to do with backs. I am just starting to breath after a horrible day, couple of bad days before this. I really need to vent and a shoulder(s) to cry on (which by the way, I have done so much of today, my eyes are dry and burning, don't think I even have tears left).

So, let me start at the beginning. As far as I go, I have had a not so great pain month, more than pain, I am extremely low energy and have not got near what I usually have done for Christmas done. I usually have Christmas cards in the mail the day after Thanksgiving (just got them out last Friday), the gifts are usually purchased and wrapped (just finished purchasing yesterday) and I only put up a tree and not all the other fun stuff that the girls and I do every year. But that's not even what's bugging me.

I just found out today, that the cancer my brother has been fighting, testicular cancer (that had spread to his stomach and lung by the time it was detected), is still in his body after chemo. The tumor that showed to be a dime size at the time of diagnosis, has grown to the size of a baseball and is now around his aorta. They said with an operation to remove most of it (all of it can not be removed due to logistics of it (above my head)), that he would have 6 months to live. Without surgery, he might have 3 months to live. My family and I are devastated, my brother just turned 31 on the 6th of this month. I can't even wrap my mind around him not being around. I am praying for a miracle, will you please pray for him, Chris and our family.

Last, my husbands best friend was in a fatal car accident on Sunday, he was 32. We don't really know the circumstances of what caused the wreck, our friend lost control of his vehicle and was T-boned by oncoming traffic, on the passenger side of his car. It was a firefighter who was on his way to work, who thankfully was bruised up, but ok. The firefighter immediately got out of his car and went to render aid; but our friend was already gone. This does give us some comfort, knowing that he did not suffer and if he could have been saved, he had his best chance with a first responder as the other driver. But, it was obviously unexpected and tragic. Please also pray for his family.

I spent my morning trying to take in my brother's diagnosis. My husband and I then went to the fueneral home this afternoon to help make arrangements for his friend. We got home late and are just beat. I am going to try and go to bed now and get some sleep.

Thanks for listening to me,

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Old 12-24-2008, 05:56 AM
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Default Our Prayers are with you.


I'm so sorry to hear about your brother and your husbands friend. My family's prayers are with you and yours. May God grant you the strength to make it through these trying times.

Peace be with you always,

Diagnosed with DDD in Nov, 2007. MRI, EMG
C3/4 C4/5 C5/6 C6/7
Surgery 06.04.08--C5/6 and C6/7 with Prodisc was a success.
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Old 12-24-2008, 08:00 AM
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Dear Kathy

I am so sorry to read your post, you must be completly devastated, its such a lot to take in and come to terms with. I wish you strength to cope at this difficult time and hold you in my thoughts now and in the New Year.

Peace and comfort to you and your family at this sad time.

Lots of love

Cervical Activ C, C5/6 & C6/7, Feb 2008
Craniotomy and excision frontal lobe brain tumour, May 2006
Lumbar ProDiscs, L4/5 & L5/S1, Feb 2004

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Old 12-24-2008, 12:56 PM
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I don't have words to even express my sympathies to your horrific news. I will say, be kind and gentle to yourself. Christmases come and Christmases go. I pray peace and strength for you and your loved ones.

My deepest regrets,

bicycle accident 6/19/01
2 compression fractures, T12, L1;
vertibroplasty @ above levels, 9/15/01
4/06 hip labral tear repair
4/07 Lumbar ProDisc replacement by Dr. B., 3 levels; L3-6
7/2/08 ALIF of L6-S1
7/30/08 Removed bone cement.
8/7/08 Diagnosed with pulmonary embolism, double pneumonia, collapsed left lung, pleurisy, pleural effusion.
3/10/09 right SI Joint Fusion; seeing light at end of tunnel, for first time in 8 years!!
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Old 12-24-2008, 03:57 PM
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I'm not often good with comforting words (or so I think anyway), so I will leave you with some e-hugs since I find those the most comforting myself when times get rough.


Hopefully the rest of the holidays will be calmer and you can relax just a little bit.

31 yrs old
Lumbar herniation L5/S1

- Did mild PT, some chiropractics and self regulated pain management since initial sports injury in Spring 1997.
- XRay and Bone Scan Jan/Feb 2007
- PT March to May 2007
- MRI Jan 2008
- Disco positive at L5/S1 Feb 2008
- ADR surgery at L5/S1 on June 23rd 2008 - Prodisc
- Recovery - so far so good!

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Old 12-24-2008, 05:16 PM
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Oh Kathy, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I'll be thinking about you and yours and sending good wishes.

Pray for a miracle. They do happen.

Take care,
Minimal DDD L4/L5
Minimal DDD L5/S1
Disco 4/07 : Large tear: @L5/S1
Idet 4/08 No improvement
Now looking at ADR vs. Fusion
ALIF Fusion 2/10 Stanford
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Old 12-24-2008, 06:18 PM
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I am so sorry to hear this sad news. There is not much to say except we are here to send you prayers and wishes for a miracle. I never know why things happen the way they do but they just happen? I'll be thinking of you often this holiday and sending good wishes your way.
Cervical fusion C4-C6 2002
Fall on tailbone April 2005
Discogram concordant at L4-S1 2007 for back pain not leg pain
Prodisc ADR surgery L4-L5-S1 November 2007
Decompression surgery L4-S1 for left sided sciatica July 2008
Continued back and leg pain, looking at possible fusion
Removal of Prodiscs and L4-S1 fusion February 2009
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Old 12-24-2008, 08:04 PM
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Default so sorry for your loss

I feel so sorrowful over your losses. I am praying for you and the family. Here is a cyber hug for you <<<<<<HUG>>>>>> It is heart felt.
I believe folks that leave here go to a place so wonderful that if they had the chance to return would politely decline....peace sweety.
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Old 12-25-2008, 01:06 PM
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There is no magic word or phrase to relieve your agonies right now. I hope it will be enough to know you have a lot of people praying for you and yours.

04/06 L5/S1 Rupture
05/06 MRI shows DDD @ L2-S1
06/06 Diskectomy/ Laminotomy L5/S1
04/07 Recurrent Disc L5/S1
4 Ortho and 1 Neuro Surgeon, 5 MRIs, 1 EGM, 1 Myleogram & 11 EDIs later:
03/27/09 L4/5 & L5/S1 Maverick disc at Stenum
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Old 12-25-2008, 03:05 PM
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Hi Kathy

My thoughts and prayers are with you


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